Are We Being The Wives God has Called Us To Be?

  I ‘am so thankful to God for giving me a Christian husband who loves God and who put him first and loves me as Christ loves the church. We both know the importance of growing in marriage. There are many articles and books on marriage out there, which is not the purpose of this blog entry. The purpose and point I am trying to point out is as wives are we doing all that God has called us to do in our role as a Christian wife.

  I find it so sad when not all men take on the Godly role of the spiritual leader of the household, but I also find it sad that some wives are not encouraging their husband daily and are not living out their love in action. Wanting your kids raised in the church, and leading family devotions are part of that process, but there is more, loving your wife, forgiveness, teaching respect, and there are more ways, those are just some.  Being the spiritual leader is also about His personal walk with Christ. On the other hand, being the wife God desires us to be means respecting and loving, we do that by encouraging, edifying, and caring for.

  We know what our husband should be doing, but this entry is written for the wives out there. As wives, we want and desire our husband to be the leader the spiritual role model so to say, but we will not get those results if we do not respect them. if we nag them to get that outcome. in 1 Peter 3:1-4 talks about being submissive to our husbands, that doesn’t mean being a doormat, it means respecting their leadership. Just as the word will know we are Christians by our love, so will our husbands know by the way we respect, listen, and act?

 Are you encouraging your husband to be the Man God has called him to be, are you encouraging him to be a man of honor and courage? We desire them to have Godly friendships and accountability in their lives, but as their spouse, we should be the number 1 person in their corner encouraging them to grow and step out in faith to lead the spiritual charge. I truly believe that is part of what were called to do. We just cannot sit back and hope they see the importance of this, we can’t nag them to want to do this. WE need to love them; wives do this, by respecting their husbands

 First, we as wives need to be growing in our spiritual walks, to make sure our walk radiated the love of Christ. Love is not nagging love is patient and kind. We should not focus on our husbands lack their of spirituality, but focus on encouraging him to grow. God is using you as his wife to help your helpmate be all that God desires him to be. are you focusing on the bigger picture or wrapped up in his faults?1 Peter 3 talks about having a gentle and quiet spirit, that should radiate into the way we interact with our spouse anger and frustration wont show him the importance, it will just build up a barrier between you and him.

 When we affirm, respect and encourage our husbands this will make it easier for Him to love and lead the way God desires it. It’s sad when men don’t see the need for fellowship or men’s study. So im challenging you respect and encourage your men even if you feel he does not deserve respect (unless in the situation of spousal abuse) God commands it otherwise. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you respect him. Surrender him daily on the altar. Pray over him. Continue to be the woman God has places in your husband’s life. Let your actions speak louder and your prayers be louder. Only God can transform hearts and reveal his truth to him. You are only Gods instrument.

Remember there are many ways to be a spiritual leader, compliment him on what he does, and pray for Gods spirit to reveal where he needs to grow.  Wives examine your heart do all in love. God knows what you need and want in this relationship, surrender and let God use you to live a life in service to Gods kingdom. Remember were all on a journey to grow and mature in Christ both in our own walks and in our marriages! As you encourage him to draw closer to God, he will grow and want to grow in his spiritual leadership of the home. Keep praying, there is power in a praying wife.

It’s a journey, you’re in it together! As you both grow and as your marriage grows it will be a investment, now that’s a commitment worth investing into!